Motherhood by Belen del Amo Perez de Lara

  1. Please introduce yourself: Name, what do you do & how many children you have.

 My name is Belen del Amo Perez de Lara. I am the Founder & CEO of 3VERS, a resilience advisory firm that helps executives (3VERSEXEC), educational institutions and parents (3VERSKIDS), and professional sports teams (3VERSSPORT) to develop mental resilience skills through training, coaching and advisory work. I am a certified Yoga Teacher (for adults and children), a member of the British Psychological Association, and author of the book How to Thrive By Building Resilience.  I have 2 children: a 7 year old boy and a 6 year old girl.

  1. How do you manage to juggle work and life balance as a mother?

As with anything it is about making tradeoffs- I don’t believe in “having it all” I believe in “having all that matters to you”. Spending the right amount of time at work, home and the things that matter to me, required trading off a number of things in my life. Once I defined what was important and crafted a plan for what it took to maintain each thing, it is all about discipline and organisation! I also credit my ability to power through the tougher times to regular exercise, healthy diet, enough sleep and meditation. The latter are the investment I make in myself to be able to give my best to everyone else.

  1. What top tips would you give to any working mum?

Define what success means to you in life, and organise your life according to that. It will free you up from judging yourself or allowing others to do so. It will empower you to live life on your terms, and “feel” successful in whatever you choose to do. A lot of it is about the mindset to accept we can’t be all things to all people, but we can be all things to the people and situations that matter to us.

  1. What do you love most about London? Do you have a favourite spot with your children?

There is so much to love about it! I love how international and diverse people are, I love the aesthetics of the city, I love how much it has to offer, and the fact that (at least for now) it is easy to fly in and out of so we can also spend time with our loved ones in Spain and around Europe.

I love London’s green spaces – particularly walking down Kensington Church Walk and spending time in St Mary’s Abbott Gardens to watch life go by with the kids. We also love spending time in Hyde Park and Holland Park which we are lucky enough to live close to, in order to enjoy all its beauty! We love going to different museums on rainy days – or snuggling up at home and staying in our PJs 😉

  1. How do you define quality ‘me-time’?

100% at the gym with my girlfriends. I love nothing more than to get a strong, challenging workout, and balance that out with a power yoga class with friends. I also love those little moments to myself on the rare occasion where I travel for work – to just look out the window of a moving plane or train. Something about it reminds me of how I grew up moving to a different city every year. On those trips I would reminisce on the things I loved that I was leaving behind, and look forward to what the future held. It is rare that I get those moments of self reflection, and when I do, it takes me straight back to my childhood!

When I am on holiday, quality me time is on my yoga mat. I keep a daily self practice and find a way to centre myself and face the day ahead with serenity!

  1. What is your favourite & least favourite thing about parenthood?

Favourite – transmitting & receiving so much love to/from my kids and husband, and watching our kids flourish and grow into little people with their own opinions, likes and dislikes. I get so much joy from spending time with them and getting to see the world through their eyes as if everything was a miracle again!

Least Favourite thing- this is a full time 24/7, lifetime job. To be the mom I wanted to be I had to trade off a lot of things in life, and coming to terms with that was the most challenging part of parenthood for me. But once I was able to overcome that mental block, it is now more of an endurance game- juggling so many balls is physically exhausting at times!

  1. Tell us something people don’t know about you.

Mmmm..I am an open book – people that know me know a lot about me! I suppose, the most important thing that has defined my personality was both growing up moving around so much during my childhood (a different city every year until I was 18) and loosing both my parents to cancer at key stages of my life. I think those two experiences made me value family above all else, and it is probably why I am so protective of it.

  1. Given we are all about embracing Motherhood, what advice would you give a first time Mum?

Allow yourself to feel whatever way you want to feel through your motherhood journey. We are usually taught to believe motherhood is fantastic, pregnancy is wonderful and giving birth is a miracle. But some of us don’t always have that experience at times. Some of us may feel lonely, or sad, or angry, or anxious, and that is ok. We have all been there at one point or another. Find a good group of friends going through the same stages as you, and keep talking, keep feeling what you’re feeling, and relax into motherhood. If you let it, it will transform you into the best version of yourself!

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10. Finally, please let us know what you love most about Kensington Mums?

I love how open you are about your motherhood journey, and that you had the initiative to set up a group to help others feel less lonely. I admire people that experience hardship and transform that into a positive outcome for a cause greater than themselves and you’ve done just that. The platform is now a go to place for all moms in Kensington. Thank you for bringing us all together Dina!

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