Motherhood by Louise Boyce

1.Please introduce yourself: Name, what do you do & how many children you have.

Hello I’m Louise Boyce, I’m 39 a mother of 3, model, blogger, podcaster, campaigner and born and bred Londoner.

2. How do you manage to juggle work and life balance as a mother?

It’s definitely a juggling act! Getting that balance can be really tricky and what works for me may be different to other mothers. Last year was a real struggle with child care and work commitments and I relied on other mothers/grandparents/husband to collect the kids which was stressful and the mum guilt seeped in. This year I decided to get a nanny.  I have her 3 days a week and she looks after my baby when I work and picks up the other boys from school – makes them supper if I’m back late and tidies up the place.  She is amazing.  It’s made the juggle feel more balanced.

3. What top tips would you give to any working mum?

Breathe and ask for help when you need it. If like me you have children at school, use the after school clubs and/or get a nanny who can help with the pick up. Then when I’m with the kids at home on a work day I have a rule – to not look at my phone at all during the hours 3.30 – 7pm.  I spend this time with the kids doing homework, having supper with them and once they are asleep or chilling watching TV I’ll check my phone.  If anything is super urgent I know I’ll get a text.  I have learnt that you can’t parent and work at the same time – you’ll do half the job, so always focus on one job at the time.

  1. What do you love most about London? Do you have a favourite spot with your children?

I love London! I’m a born and bred Londoner and always seem to find new places that I didn’t know about. I love the energy and diversity that comes with London.  My sons are at a school that is do diverse which I’m so proud to be a part of.  I live in Clapham and I love to go to Clapham Common with the kids – such great walks and the kids love to explore.  It’s a beautiful place all year round.  I also love Notting Hill where I got married.  I walked through Portobello Road on a busy summer Saturday afternoon my wedding dress to get to the church.  I wish I could have bottled the energy, the vibe and the cheers from the crowds of people wishing me well.  It was electric!

5. How do you define quality ‘me-time’?

There are so many small things one can do for ‘me time’ and I try to do this once a day at least. Buying yourself a cup of coffee in a café after school drop off with myself or other mothers is a daily ritual if I’m not working. I go a weekly yoga class that totally zens me out and give me perspective when I’m feeling stressed, I love talking long hot candle lit baths where I’ll drink wine and read a book.  I pick up the phone and call my mum, sister, best mate for some quality girl chat whenever I can – especially after a day of only being around kids.  But mainly, when all the kids are asleep I like to curl up on the sofa and binge watch on Netflix with my husband.  We have a rule – no phones on the sofa so we actually watch the TV instead of hearing it with our heads down.  Also – on Jan 1st I started to write a diary.  Every evening I get into bed and write down what happened in the day – what irritated me, what made me happy and what’s happening with the kids.  It’s a great release, it’s something I really look forward to and a great time capsule for years to come.

  1. What is your favourite & least favourite thing about parenthood?

Too many things for my favourites things – being a parent is such an incredible gift and I am so grateful to have such a fantastic family. I love watching them grow into themselves, I love seeing how my influence has rubbed off on them (the good parts), I love how they love me, how they think I am able to solve and fix anything with a kiss. I love how children still believe in magic and see the best in everyone…  I don’t like the monotonous of repeating myself – eat your food, brush your teeth, don’t hit your bother, pull the flush, wash your hands…. I can’t wait for the day I don’t have to bark instructions all the time… saying that my husband still needs barking at from time to time.. is it a boy thing?

 

  1. Tell us something people don’t know about you.

I play the drums, I have ACHOO syndrome which means I sneeze a lot when exposed to bright lights (I sneeze a lot at work with the studio lights!) and I am qualified to teach tap dancing.

 

  1. Given we are all about embracing Motherhood, what advice would you give a first time Mum?

I would say that it’s ok if motherhood at first wasn’t what you thought it would be – that it’s ok to not feel an instant bond with your baby, that all babies are different and all develop at their own speeds, that it’s pointless to compare yourself to other mothers, that it’s normal to argue with your partner, that you will get sleep back eventually, that your body has done something miraculous and you should be proud of this, that you’re doing an amazing job and no matter how hard it can be at times, you’ll wish to be back in the fog of it all when your baby is grown up and refuses to kiss you goodbye at the school gates, and that motherhood is the most beautiful journey and you rock!

9. I’m a mum and extremely grateful.

10. Finally, please let us know what you love most about Kensington Mums?

It’s a great community with like minded mothers – a great support network that we all need

 

 

 

 

 

 

We love to inspire and empower mothers in our community. If you would like to share your motherhood journey with us, drop us an email we would love to hear from you. Click here to read Interview with Petra Ecclestone and Bettina Campolucci Bordi.