The environment in which a child is raised often plays a role in the personality they develop and sometimes how well they perform in life. It’s really important then that we ensure our children are getting the best messages to help them succeed and become resilient individuals right from home.
Here are 4 easy tips, which double up as overall great life lessons, to follow and teach your child:
1. Let them know it’s okay to make mistakes
Often what holds us back from succeeding is the fear of failing or making a mistake. Failure is one of the top causes for anxiety, but we can minimise its effects by teaching our children that it’s a common part of life.
If you can assure your child that mistakes can teach us valuable lessons to learn from then your child will be more confident and feel less pressured.
Immediate action point: Use an example from your own life or that of an inspirational figure where failures or mistakes have occurred but eventually been overcome.
2. Give them positive affirmations when they are doing well
Most parents know to praise their child when they receive good results from a test, but it’s important to do this throughout all aspects of their life. This can be as simple as telling them you’re proud of them when they’re doing their homework or acknowledging their accomplishments outside of the academic world.
Giving your child positive affirmations when they are doing well will motivate them to want to do better.
Immediate action point: Write down 3 great things your child did last week and go and congratulate them.
3. Give them space to express their feelings
It’s important that we teach our children that what they feel is important to us and that we validate these feelings. By creating a space for a child to be open about their feelings, it encourages them to explore what they’re passionate about and also to be more transparent about things that cause them distress.
By incorporating this as part of a family discussion you’ll be teaching your child to be more aware and informed about their mental health and wellbeing.
Immediate action point: Ask your child to list one thing that makes them really happy and one thing that makes them sad.
4. Practice gratitude
Research shows that doing a daily gratitude exercise will make you happier, more self-disciplined and more able to achieve your goals. We can help our children obtain these by simply teaching them to be thankful.
Practising gratitude is a key skill that changes the lens through which a person sees the world, by teaching our children that there are always positives to look for we better equip them to deal with difficult situations and to not fall at the first hurdle.
Immediate action point: Ask your child to write down 3 things they are grateful for and keep this by their bedside.