What is excessive worrying?
We all worry sometimes, it’s normal. However, the arrival of children may have given the word “worrying” a whole new meaning for you. You, like many other mums, might find yourself worrying about every single little thing: “What if we can’t support our children?” “Why is my Benjamin’s not walking yet?” “What if Anna doesn’t get into that school?”
The list is endless, but you might feel you can’t do anything to stop your worries streaming in and, eventually, you find yourself in a spiral of worry that you can’t get out of.
You might have trouble focusing on simple day-to-day activities and you might find yourself snapping at your children or partner. You may even feel like you can’t enjoy things you usually love. All of this may be topped off with a headache and/or intense back pain…
You are not alone! 40% of people worry every day, and it’s exhausting. Constant worrying is emotionally and physically draining. Luckily, we have some tips to make you feel better…
What can you do about it?
- Understand how worrying works
- It often feels like worries come from the outside and that you have no control over them. However, the reality is that worries may be triggered by external events, but it is your internal dialogue that keeps them running.
- We often focus on the “what if” of different scenarios, which only creates more worries. Understanding that your mind is creating this “worry spiral” is key to putting things into perspective.
- Keep a “worry list”
- List each of your worries
- For each one, ask yourself whether you can do something about it
- If the answer is yes, then write down actions that you will take to address it
- If the answer is no, let it go and agree to come back to it at a designated time-slot, and only for a limited amount of time