Motherhood by Marissa Hermer

We are delighted to share with you the interview with Marissa Hermer, a mum of two and bump of 1 on her motherhood journey. Marissa is cast on Ladies of London and is also part of the Ignite Group which includes Bumpkin London, Boujis and Eclipse in Chelsea.

How do you manage to juggle work and life balance as a mother of 2?
It is hardly a balance – rather, I give attention to what needs it most at that moment – mostly it is unbalanced! If the kids are happy and settled, then I give attention to work – and if work is ticking along, then I’m with the kids. I aim to spend half my day in the office or at Top Dog or Bumpkin and then the other half of the day with the munchkins – of course it doesn’t always pan out like this.

Congrats on bump number 3, What pregnancy cravings have you been experiencing so far and have if you have suffered from morning sickness what has worked to ease the pain a bit?
When I was pregnant with Max and Jake, I craved hot dogs – which is ultimately why I ended up opening Top Dog as I missed my childhood American hot dogs and I couldn’t find one in London to satisfy my cravings. Of course, with this pregnancy, I’m at Top Dog EATING hot dogs all the time so it is hardly a craving anymore – I’m certainly getting my fill.  I do crave sushi though… This pregnancy, I did actually get afternoon / evening sickness – it is SUCH a bore but I just sort of got on with it and tried to ignore it.

What top tips would you give to any mum on starting her own business?
Be aware that you will have to make sacrifices – it isn’t all fun and games when you’ve got to choose work over the kids – but it is part of it. A dear friend told me that I would always feel guilty – and it is true! I feel guilty when I’m in the office and not with the kids – and I feel guilty when I’m with the kids but I’m not in the office. But once I embraced the guilt – and realised it was all part of it – then it is fine.

What is your top family recipe that everyone loves to eat?
My kids love my lasagne – I always am either making a dish OR have one that I’ve frozen that I’m taking out of the freezer. 

 

What is your favourite hang out in London with your children?
We love feeding the ducks in Hyde Park with our week’s leftover bread and of course, they love an adventure on the tube to Soho for hot dogs at Top Dog. 

How do you define quality ‘me-time’?
Sunday evening bath time – after we’ve tucked the kids into bed and my husband reads the Sunday papers, I take a few Sunday sections into the tub with me, light a few candles, and really chill out. 

What does motherhood represent to you?
Motherhood has calmed me – kids force you to prioritise in life, and I’m most content when I’m curled up with the munchkins. 

What do you love most about London?
It is home to me now – though I came here as an ex-pat, London is where I fell in love with my husband, where we are growing our family, where I’ve opened my business… it really feels like home even though I also feel at home in California. 

Where is your ideal family holiday and why?
We go to California every summer to spend time with my family and childhood friends – but it isn’t a relaxing vacation as there is so many things to do from seeing grandparents to taking the kids to all my childhood favourite spots. My favourite relaxing vacation with the kids is to the Prince Maurice in Mauritius – a true vacation where we all switch off. We get a villa on the beach and only have to walk a few meters from the beach to our pool – pretty heavenly.  

Given we are all about embracing our Motherhood journey what advice would you give a frist time Mum?
Everyone does it differently – try not to compare yourself to other mums or your friends – do it your own way and trust your instincts – they are there for a reason.