We are so proud to be partnering with Natalie Pennicotte-Collie, mindful practitioner and therapist as our Childrens Mental Health Ambassador. We love to share knowledge and empowering you all to cultivate a mindful family life, more connected and present. As its Children’s mental health week next week, we wanted to share this article with you with the theme of #beingoursevles, something we truly value at Kensington Mums HQ! We pass it onto Natalie.
Be that adult you want your children to be ….The most powerful way you can influence your child is by being and modelling what you want them to be
Its OK to Say.. Share stories of struggles and strength and show there will always be room for both in your home .
REALLY Give them your full attention, eye to eye and gift them your full awareness.
Give them the gift of listening without distraction or instant solutions.
* Just being heard can make such a difference.
Sounds obvious BUT how many times do you actually say I LOVE YOU slowly eye to eye to yourself in the mirror? Probably hardly ever….
* Try it together with your child as a tiny self love prayer . Make sure they know you love them and are proud of them at the end of the day and send love to every part of your amazing body .
An ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
Even when things are busy or stressful, and it feels like you are in survival mode
* Find 3 things together you are grateful for . Research has shown this has enormous power to shift our mindset and positively influence our wellbeing and neuropathways.
One of my clients wanted to pass on her mothers loving prayer .
No matter what, at the end of the day, her mother would say
“Thank you for giving me another day in your life” So simple but never forgotten at 73years young!
Be the unafraid imperfect Human yourself .. Being honest about your feelings – you don’t have to be perfect. We all get things wrong from time to time or react in haste and shout or say unkind things from time to time. If this happens, say sorry to your child afterwards and explain why it happened, They will learn from you that it’s OK to make mistakes and that it doesn’t make you a bad person. There is nothing to lose, only something to learn…
AWARENESS & COMPASSION
Be clear about what is and isn’t acceptable – and tell them why. Children need to know what is OK and what isn’t.
Choose to MEDITATE if they cross the line. Follow through on what you say with clarity but kindness as otherwise they may get confused or stop respecting the boundaries. Angry moods and poor behavior is most often ATTENTION NEEDING not necessarily ATTENTION SEEKING .
Mindfulness literally changes your brain – so ask yourself why would you not join in together and find your Mini mindful moments of informal practice. Mindfulness is the perfect way to surf those challenges and nuture a good mental health habit.